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Bow High School superintendent Marcy Kelly rejects the claim that she opposes freedom of expression at school events. She told a federal judge on Friday that flags and symbols are welcome — as long as she agrees with their message.

Specifically, Kelly told United States District Court Judge Steven McAuliffe that, while she stands by her decision to ban parents from wearing pink wristbands in support of girls-only sports, she would welcome the waving of Gay Pride flags and other symbols at the same events.

Soccer dads Kyle Fellers and Anthony Foote were slapped with “no trespass” orders by Kelly and the Bow School District after they wore the wristbands at the Sept. 17 girl’s Bow High School soccer game against Plymouth High School.

Kelly told the court she found the wristbands “exclusionary,” and therefore, she believes she has the authority to ban them from school events.

Kelly testified she knew from emails and social media posts that the men might wear the pink “XX” wristbands, and that was something she wanted to stop. “I had concerns (Foote and Fellers) were going to display an anti-trans message on that one day.”

Kelly admitted she initially considered banning all would-be spectators from the game. Instead, she settled on a plan to have police at the game and use school officials to patrol the sidelines looking for actions or symbols she found offensive.

“XX is a pretty well-known anti-trans symbol,” Kelly claimed.

(According to science, women have XX chromosomes and men have XY chromosomes.)

Del Kolde, an attorney with the nonprofit Institute for Free Speech who is representing the plaintiffs in the lawsuit against Kelly, asked Kelly if she would allow parents to wear LGBTQ+ Rainbow Pride wristbands at games.

No problem, Kelly said. “It’s inclusionary, it’s not targeting or harassing anyone,” she said.

And that, Kolde told NHJournal, is a legal smoking gun.

“The Bow School officials have basically admitted to engaging in viewpoint discrimination. That is illegal in a limited public forum, such as school sporting events. We hope that this censorship regime will soon be enjoined.”

United States District Court Judge Steven McAuliffe has already overturned Bow’s “no trespass” order that prevented Fellers and Foote from going to games and other afterschool events. Whether the dads can engage in silent protests at future games and events by wearing the XX wristbands is still up in the air.

Kelly said her belief that “XX” symbolism is anti-transgender bigotry is on based on her reaction to the work of Riley Gaines, the NCAA swimmer who was forced to compete against a biological male, Lia Thomas.

“I find that when (Gaines) says ‘XX means real women,’ that is exclusionary,” Kelly said.

Gaines has emerged as a national advocate for girls-only sports and private spaces. In August, Gaines came to New Hampshire to support a new law banning males from girls’ support in the 5th through 12th grades. She described “the experience of competing against a man in women’s sports, being forced without warning or consent to undress before the fully intact male.”

Support for protecting girls’ sports from biological males who want to compete has soared over the past few years. Polls in New Hampshire and at the national level show voters support banning males from girls’ sports by a three or four-to-one margin.

Also on Friday, New Hampshire Attorney General John Formella joined a group of 24 state attorneys general urging the U.S. Supreme Court to overturn a lower court ruling and uphold an Arizona law prohibiting biological boys from competing on girls’ sports teams.

“Basing the distinction on biology rather than gender identity makes sense because it is the differences in biology—not gender identity—that call for separate teams in the first place: Whatever their gender identity, biological males are, on average, stronger and faster than biological females,” the brief reads in part.

New Hampshire passed a similar law over the unanimous opposition of Democrats in the state House and Senate.

Last week’s hearings in the Bow case will inform McAuliffe’s decision on possibly lifting the ban on silent protests. A trial on the merits of the lawsuit is still to come. 

One of the Bow parents fighting for his right to bear pink, XX wristbands at school athletic events faced a slightly skeptical judge during Thursday’s hearing in the United States District Court in Concord.

When asked by Judge Steven McAuliffe why he wore the wristbands to a Bow girl’s soccer game in September, Anthony “Andy” Foote testified he wanted to support girls in girl’s sports, and not negatively target people in the transgender community with his protest.

“The bottom line is girls are losing what they fought for,” Foote said. 

But McAuliffe wasn’t sold on that explanation, saying it reminds him of the people who protested against the Vietnam War when he was a young man.

“They said, I’m not protesting the war, I’m supporting peace,” McAuliffe said. “I don’t see the difference there.”

Foote, along with fellow soccer dad Kyle Fellers, Foote’s wife Nicole Foote, and Eldon Rash, are suing the Bow School District after they were banned for the offense of wearing pink wristbands marked with XX. Thursday’s evidentiary hearing will allow McAuliffe to decide if the parents can put on the wristbands at games or not. More testimony is anticipated Friday.

After Foote and Fellers were forced to remove the wristbands at the Sept. 17 game, and Fellers was ordered to leave the field, both men were served with no trespassing letters from the Bow School District that banned them from their children’s games and other school events. McAuliffe overturned the ban last month, but he did not block the district’s prohibition against silent forms of protest.

When questioned by the attorneys, both Fellers and Foote maintained on the witness stand they were supporting women’s sports by wearing the wristbands. But McAuliffe wanted to establish Foote and Feller’s need to publicly support for women isn’t occurring in a vacuum. 

“The object of your protest is, ‘I don’t like the fact a trans girl is playing on a girl’s team,’” McAuliffe said. “It’s all about the trans girls playing on girls’ teams.”

McAuliffe previously suggested there is nothing bigoted in believing that transgender girls — aka “biological boys” — should not play full-contact sports with biological girls. He said again Thursday that opinion is not out of bounds.

“You’re entitled to your viewpoint, a lot of people hold it,” McAuliffe said.

Bow’s Sept. 17 game was against the Plymouth High School girl’s team, whose roster includes biological male Parker Tirrell. The week before the Bow game, Tirrell won the right to play on the girl’s team in a lawsuit against New Hampshire’s law banning biological boys from girl’s spots, HB 1205. Tirrell played nearly the whole game against Bow on Sept. 17. 

In the days leading up to the game against Plymouth, and after Tirrell’s legal victory, Foote sent an email to Bow Athletic Director Mike Desilets demanding action to protect the girl’s team.

“Where’s your courage? Where’s your integrity? Stand up for real women or get out of the way,” Foote wrote.

Desilets also received an email from another parent warning about planned disruptive protests at the Plymouth game by angry parents. Foote said that email, warning that soccer dads planned to wear dresses and harass Tirrell, is not based on any facts and the writer had no conversation with him about his protest plans.

And, it was pointed out, none of those events happened.

Instead, the four wore their pink wristbands, there was no comment made toward Tirrell during the game, and no mention of any specific player.

“This was not about heckling Parker Tirrell,” Foote said.

McAuliffe also viewed the police body camera recording of the confrontation between Bow Police Lt. Phil Lamy and Fellers. Fellers had been ordered to leave the field after becoming verbally combative with officials. At his car in the parking lot, Fellers held up a sign with a “Support women in women’s sports” slogan and got into another verbal altercation with Lamy when the game ended.

Fellers was reportedly holding up his sign in the direction of Plymouth’s team bus, but said he did not notice the bus and had no intention of targeting Tirrell.

“I don’t believe anybody should intimidate anybody,” Fellers said.

McAuliffe’s questions about Foote’s intent highlight the nuance in the legal issues at play. While there’s a free speech right to protest, there are also laws against harassment. The school district has maintained it was trying to protect Tirrell from anti-transgender harassment when officials confronted the parents over the wristbands and forced them to remove the items. 

However, that does not explain why the parents were subsequently banned from all after school events. That may be cleared up Friday when Bow Superintendent Marcy Kelly is expected to testify.